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Some widows and widowers, however, "put their spouse on a pedestal," Thomas says, which begs comparison and doesn't bode well for new relationships.About a year after her husband died, Shannon Bell, 31, of Kendallville, Ind., says she jumped too quickly into the dating pool. I quickly fell into a relationship with someone who was not right for me in the least, but he was someone with a heartbeat." Lesson learned, Bell spent time "finding what I was made of on my own." A year and a half later, she's in a healthy relationship, expressing her grief freely and taking it slowly.Though key to any relationship, finding a compassionate partner is essential for the recently widowed."It's very important that the person (you're dating) is supportive of you and your process," says Michele Neff Hernandez, executive director of Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation in Simi Valley, Calif."One widower was told by a woman that he was a perfect man, but 'unfortunately you're totally undateable.No good woman wants to be second.'" Young widows and widowers are often branded in one way or another, she adds.It's important, during and after the grieving process, not to accept others' misguided notions.Equally important, says Carole Brody Fleet, author of "Widows Wear Stilettos: A Practical and Emotional Guide for the Young Widow" (New Horizon Press) and herself a widow, is letting go of dating guilt.
Widower Matt Logelin, 34, who lives in Los Angeles with his daughter, Madeline, encourages young widows and widowers to be true to themselves.
Logelin runs a foundation in his late wife's name and discusses his life and its challenges on his blog (mattlogelin.com).
"We spend so much time worrying about what other people are going to think and how it affects them," Logelin says, "we lose sight of who we are and what our happiness needs to be.
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